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你不會『因失敗而痛苦』，除非你活在一個只崇尚成功的傳統中。

在有『贏』的傳統中才會使人『輸』得很苦。

不快樂本身並不是什麼難題；在很多關係中，它甚至要算是一種榮耀。

為一個深愛的人而哀傷，顯然就是這麼回事。

-----Relational Being, Kenneth J. Gergen 

I always doubt if anything at all is meant to be seen in a certain way？ or more to that, people with the label of "good" should not be too greedy, not too sad, can't be lazy, who shouldn't linger in drinking or gambling actiities or etc. Or, people who once stydied abroad will normally sentenced right away to death with the lable of "rich" and nothing more persuasive description could wipe that out.  

我常常懷疑，是不是人們對於很多事的感受和看法，都有固定的理解模式？或者是說，有著好人標籤的代表，就不應該太貪心，不能太悲傷，也不可能是怠惰的，也幾乎不該流連於酒池肉林的生活等等。另一種比喻，像出國留學的人，應該會直接被“有錢”的標籤判處死刑，並且再沒有更說服人的話可以剔除它。

I am not sure what does "abroad" mean to you? For me it means different cultures, race, background, or you may also refer to different angle of seeing things, and that is exactly what I need and have learned from them. People or places outside of your world share stories, one and only that connects you to them are the most precious after all, not only the topic of beautiful scenaries, higher wages, or luxury brand matters. What you see is what you get, but sometimes, nothing is waht you think it is.     

我不確定“國外"對你們來說代表著什麼？對我來說，那代表著不一樣文化，種族，背景，或你也可以說是不一樣的角度與看法， 而這些才是我需要和真正學到的。到最後，這些人事物與你分享的故事將緊緊牽絆著你，那才是最珍貴的。自己以外的世界的話題真的不僅限於美麗的風景，崇高的薪水或是精品。你看見什麼，就會得到什麼，但有時候，不是每一件事，都和你的想的一樣。

I am not proud just because of staying a few years abroad, and you shoud not envy those who did even it looks that much glamorous. There is this friend who once told me that if he could ever choose again, he wouldn't want spending all those time abroad and being alone, for that I mean if you really spend almost a decade out persued your junior high school way up to university.  We definitely gain something, but he lost somthing, I lost somthing, and you could never judge the pros and cons. Most of all, you should not waste your time on only outwardly apparent rather than genuine or actual.

在國外生活了幾年真的沒什麼好驕傲的，就算看似光鮮亮麗，你也不應該羨慕。有一個朋友曾經說過，如果可以選擇，他絕對不要在國外一個人渡過。我是說，如果你從國中到大學，花了將近十年的話。我想我們都得到了些什麼，也失去了些什麼，但你永遠也無法衡量它的利弊。所以，真的不需要浪費時間羨慕看似亮麗的表像，而忽略真正重要的東西。

For a long time, I hate the place where I came from, and for even much longer, going farther and further is my one and only wish. To get this far, I must say it was really hard and for that i fought with all of my stengths.

曾經很長一段時間，我痛恨自己生長的地方，在更長久的時間裡，唯一願望就是去一個很遙遠的地方。改變的過程真的很難，為此，我也用盡了全力。

 I perceived myself as a rebellious being, who is having a mind that doesn't seem to fit so well with her surrounding. But, I like my choice. 

我自認是一個叛逆的存在，但我喜歡我的選擇。

『人生是沒有橡皮檫的繪畫藝術。意義並不是你某天忽然發現的，就像謎語的答案或尋寶的獎品。意義是你在人生中累積出來的某種東西，它出自你的過去，出自你的情感與忠誠，出自你已經體會到那身而為人的經驗，出自你自己的才華與認知，出自你相信的事物，出自你熱愛的人與事，出自你願意做出某些犧牲以爭取的價值。所有的原料都在那裡，你是那個唯一可以把它們放在一起，成為獨一無二圖案的人，而那就是你的人生。』---John Garder